Keynote · Speaker · Provocateur
Engineering
epiphanies
on stage.
Author, therapist, speaker and global ambassador for the REAL mental health movement. Raw, provocative, and refusing to sugar-coat the human condition.
About Tom
Tom is an outspoken challenger of the modern self-help and therapy industries. Known for his raw, provocative style, his work focuses on one central question: why do intelligent, capable people keep sabotaging their own lives?
After years of professional training in therapeutic practice and two decades working with thousands of clients, Tom became increasingly frustrated with approaches that endlessly analyse problems without resolving them. In response, he developed the Unf*ck Your Self Process — a direct, structured system designed to help people fix their own unconscious sabotage patterns and reclaim control of their lives.
His latest book, Don't F*ck Up Your Life, is the culmination of 26 years of work at the intersection of psychology, personal responsibility, conscious leadership and social critique.
His message is simple but powerful: most people aren't broken — they're over-adapted.
Speaker Reel
My showreel
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Signature Talks
My unique
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My life was transformed in a single-event epiphany. I am walking, talking evidence that anyone can radically change their life in an instant. Since the year 2000, I have been obsessed with the art and science of engineering epiphanies and rapid transformation. Below are my main set pieces — but I love creating bespoke presentations for the exact needs of your audience or event.
The Art & Science of Being Your Best
Access the extraordinary power of the unconscious mind to discover your greatest capability, capacity and confidence. An immersive, experiential journey into the source of your most amazing self — with practical tools to take your whole life, your team, and your culture to the next level.
The Power of the Imposter Within
The surprising truth about Imposter Syndrome and the self-sabotage that underpins it. The cost to the global economy is immense, and unchecked it kills careers and companies. Learn how these limiting parts of ourselves can be transformed into our greatest asset — and our greatest ally.
Oneness & Wonder
A fascinating tour of our extraordinary universe, the magic and madness of non-dual quantum reality, and what that means about life and our place in it. A liberating journey from the small, limited, fearful personality into the beauty of the singular field of consciousness we are all part of.
For Hosts & Producers
Suggested
questions.
- 01
Why do intelligent, capable people still sabotage their own lives?
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Why doesn't insight automatically create change?
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What's the difference between coping with a pattern and actually dissolving it?
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What is the “Survival Rule” and how does it shape our lives?
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Why do so many people feel stuck despite doing therapy and self-help?
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What role does fear play in everyday decision-making?
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Why is the part of us that sabotages our lives actually trying to protect us?
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Why do some people resist change even when they consciously want it?
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What does it actually mean to “be on your own side”?
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If someone realises they're sabotaging their life, what should they do first?
Past Clients
- BBC
- BBC Radio 1
- Co-op
- David Lloyd Clubs
- British Heart Foundation
- European Social Fund
- Wall to Wall
- Budgens
- YMCA
- LSC
Featured In
- TEDx
- BBC
- Metro
- The Sun
- Daily Express
- Natural Health
- Women's Health
- Top Santé
- TechRadar
“The answer is not one big political solution. The answer is millions of personal evolutions. So, we have to make transformation appeal to the masses.”
— Thomas Fortes Mayer